Milk and Cigarettes

Rambles about stuff I like.

A cannabis haze ramble about forcing myself to take advantage of the day

I was pretty slackadaisical [sic] last week with writing. So here we are trying to do a bit better.

I was pretty slackadaisical last week as well. Friday I had to get up early in order to go to the hospital for a kidney checkup. But then I didn’t nap during the day – so I was tired, and when I get tired I get lazy, and when I get lazy I get unproductive. So I basically took Friday off in order to watch tv, play video games and smoke weed. But then, Friday turned into Saturday and I was having so much fun doing nothing, that I kept on doing nothing.

So here I am today, trying to get out of the “do nothing” hole – and get back into the habit of work.

The problem is, doing nothing isn’t all that relaxing – because in the back of my mind I know I’ve got stuff I could be doing. I’ve got notes I could do for class, I’ve got a thesis I should be working on. So taking a day off fills me with guilt. (Not to mention I made chocolate chip cookies Friday night – from scratch, a-thank-you – and so yesterday I ate like, 20 cookies. Guh.)

I think, with goals, it’s easy to get frustrated with how much left there is to do. Usually I’ll do something like, have a good 2 or 3 days in a row, then have some small setback that will set me totally off course. Or I’ll get frustrated at how much longer it will be before I’m on my own, and I say “to hell with the diet” and overeat.

What I want to focus on now, is just writing all my goals down the night before, then during the day getting all my goals done as quickly and efficiently as possible. No matter how tired, how grumpy or how much I have left to do, I should focus on increasing my self-discipline by doing as many of my goals on the ToDo list as I can.

I need to remember that my feelings follow my actions – and if I take action, suck it up, and do the next thing on my ToDo list, once I’ve started, I’ll feel better about the whole thing.

Then I can relax at night, guilt-free, knowing that I spent my whole day working on my goals – and I can be more ok about the fact that my goals will take a long time. What gets me to my goals will be consistency – and as I focus on doing my goals everyday, pretty soon I’ll build up a consistent routine of getting these goals done. And little by little, I’ll start inching my way towards the finish line – until my consistent work catches up with me, and I inevitably reach my goal.

But most of all, I keep getting in the mindset of “I’ll start this for real, tomorrow.” Well, there is no tomorrow. The race has already begun, there’s no restarting – there’s only today, and what I can do today to get myself closer to my goals. If I have a setback, or I reach the end of the day without having done much, the best thing I can do for tomorrow is to write down my ToDo list, and go to bed early. But until then, don’t give up on today. Try and do as much as I can to achieve my goals, no matter what I’m feeling, or how much I don’t want to do it.

That’s what I’m focusing on today.

And finally, check off my tasks once I’ve done it on my ToDo list. That’ll give me a sense of accomplishment, seeing all those checks add up.

And also – do the worst thing first. This will probably mean exercise first thing in the morning, well then, so be it.


May 24, 2015 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

a ramble about pushing through the bleahs

The Sens won yesterday! A tight 1-0 win over the hated Montreal Canadiens. Next game on Friday. Gonna be great!

Meanwhile, I had two beer yesterday – along with a bunch of pizza and junk food – and man am I feeling it today. Plus, I stayed up late looking at stuff on the internet, so I’m amazed I’ve been able to day anything today. I guess that’s what self-discipline is – doing the stuff you know you should do, whether you feel like it or not. And I definitely do *NOT* feel like doing stuff today. Oh well – getting ‘er done. I’ll feel good about myself at the end of the day.

Anyhoo – writer’s blocked again. Can’t think of anything to write about – so I’ll write about me, that’s fascinating. I’ve done math and piano so far today, doing my writing now and reading afterwards. If I’m really good, I’ll go do a workout – I doubt very highly I’ll lift, but if I could even do 30 minutes of cardio, that’d be something. Then I’d have done some good things today towards all my goals, and that’d be pretty damn good for what I thought was gonna be a waste of a day.

I think that’s what happens – the more I work on my goals, the more reluctant I am to take a day off. When I’m wasting time in the morning, I don’t feel great later – because I know that time was wasted, and it could’ve been put to much more productive use.

That was the worst thing I did this morning. I got up at 8:00 in order to take my pills – and then I decided to do my goals, visualization and meditation before I went back to finish my sleep. All that should take about 45 minutes – but I wasted a good 30 minutes surfing the net. That was a poor decision I made when tired – as a result, I didn’t get back to sleep right away, and I woke up after my nap still groggy. Just a bleah way to start the day.

If I’m to achieve my health goals, I’ve got to learn how to say no to all the temptations that everyone else is indulging in – last night, for example, was beer and pizza. If I had had only one beer and one slice of pizza, that would’ve been better. But I had 3 slices of pizza, a couple beer, a bunch of chips and candy… stayed up late. Gleahhhaaah!!!

Oh well – live and learn, keep moving forward. Gonna get my reading done, do my cardio, shave and get all cleaned up, then go to bed early. That’s the best thing one can do after a bleah day – get cleaned up (very important) and go to bed early.

There’s something about cleaning that makes you feel better – whether it’s getting yourself clean, or cleaning up the space you live in. You just feel better afterwards – for one, you look better (which will make you feel better.) And if you clean up your space, then you’ll feel like you’ve accomplished something, which is also good.

Plus, going to bed early – if you can force yourself to do it – is also really good. A great day starts with a good night’s sleep.

My problem is I don’t like going to bed early – especially in the summer – I like staying up late in the cool of the night, having time to myself, smoking weed and reading conspiracies on the internet. But if I want to achieve my goals, I must make the necessary sacrifices.

*long sigh* Meh. I’m sure I’ve said stuff like this before – but it takes a long time to internalize these messages and ideas. Just gotta keep working at it, everyday.

Welp – that’s close enough to 15 minutes. Big game tomorrow!

April 23, 2015 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Waving a magic wand: my ultimate goals for the 5 pillars

Well, a bit of a bummer as my afternoon date cancelled on me. But I did manage to find a hook-up for tonight, so that’s a plus. One thing that I tend to forget is that dating is a process – a marathon, not a sprint. When my anxiety gets the better of me, I forget about that, and tend to go overboard with my texting and tinder. Consequently, I come off as needy and desperate. I’ll do much better once I learn to channel my sexual energy into my goals on a consistent basis.

Speaking of goals, I mentioned yesterday how I’d outline my goals and plans for my mini-goals. I think I’ll do that now. I’ve got the 5 pillars: Health, Love, Math, Fortune and Fame.

When it comes to goals, I must be purely selfish. I have to pick goals that *I* want to achieve, and not goals that other people want me to achieve. This is relatively easy for me to do, since I’ve had practice – but if you’re young and trying to live up to your parents ideals, then that’ll result in an unhappy life. I think the mindset should be, “Even if no one else knew I had achieved these goals, what goals would I want to achieve?” That is, what are the goals I want to achieve, no matter what anyone else might say.

The other thing about setting goals, is that you don’t worry about the “How to.” Just yet. I think too many people have a goal, but then immediately shout it down in their own mind. i.e., Someone will say, “I wish I owned the Dallas Cowboys.” but then immediately after thinking of that goal, they’ll say, “Ah, that’ll never happen.” Or something negative like that.

So what I’m going to do is called the “magic wand” technique. I’m going to pretend I have a magic wand, and when I wave it, whatever I want to come true will happen. In this fashion, I won’t get bogged down with the “how to’s” of attaining my goals. I’ll just lay out what I want in life. Later on I’ll figure out how to get it.

So, Health. If I could wave a magic wand and achieve my ideal Health goals, what would that look like?

Well, for starters, I had a kidney transplant when I was a kid, and that’s a major challenge in my life. So the first thing I would wish for would be my own genetic kidney. After that, I would want to be in peak physical condition, I would want clear and healthy skin, shiny white teeth with fresh, minty breath, I want to be able to fall asleep 5 minutes after I go to bed, and I want to wake up everyday with a positive attitude and bursting with energy.

Now, this is a good start – when it comes time to writing down my mini-goals, I would need to get more specific. But this gives me a good idea of what I want my perfect Health life to look like.

Next up, if I could wave a magic wand, what would my perfect Love life look like?

Well, I would definitely want to have a deep, emotional and physical connection with a young, beautiful, virgin girl, who’s dedicated to old fashioned values, motherhood and starting a family.

Funny, I didn’t know where that would end up as I was typing – I’m sort of shocked that I would want a woman who wanted to start a family. For a long time, I was convinced I would just be single for the rest of my life and that would be that. But, as I’ve learned, after ignoring my needs for so long, and dealing with these issues, I’m starting to learn what I truly want in life. And I think I can honestly say that, yes, I would like to be married and start a family.

Well, I ‘unno. It’s shocking for me to write that. Maybe it’s just because I’m in such a good mood today. Who knows? But, for now, that’ll be my ultimate Love goal.

Next up, Math. Easy peasy. I want to solve the twin prime conjecture and the Riemann hypothesis. I want to write the standard, undergraduate texts for algebra and calculus, and I want to be remembered as one of the greatest mathematicians of the 21st century.

The math goals will be tough. But luckily, I am developing good math habits so that everyday, I do a little bit more Math. In 30 years or so, I might be able to accomplish these.

Penultimately, Wealth. I want to own a 100 acre plot of arable land on which I can build my dream house. I want to have over $10,000,000 in the bank and earn over $100,000 a month by being my own boss and working from home.

Finally, Fame. I would love to be famous for being smart and funny. I think I could be a musician – I think I could earn a living doing stand-up comedy, and I would like to be world renowned as an intellectual and author. My fame goals are what I want to work on in my spare time.

So that’s a rough outline of my ultimate goals in each pillar. That’s the funnest part of goals, thinking about what you want. Now comes the tough part – writing out more specific goals, and then creating mini-goals that I must accomplish in order to achieve my ultimate goal. The final step is writing out a plan for the first mini-goal. And then that’s what I’ll do in the upcoming blog posts.

But that’s been about 15 minutes. Have an awesome Saturday!

March 21, 2015 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

A ramble about goals and visualization, with some nonsense references thrown in at the end

Missed another one yesterday – oh well, back on ‘er today.

That’s the thing with goals, you don’t hit a target. Set a new target. Now, using the Seinfeld method, I’ll see how long I can keep my streak going, starting today.

One thing I have been doing regularly is visualization. Every morning, I’ve set aside 15 minutes for visualization. What I do, is for 3 minutes at a time, I visualize my goals in the areas of Health, Love, Math, Fortune and Fame. I try and picture myself as I will be, when I achieve all my goals.

It’s really hard.

It’s hard to visualize yourself in the third person. How you’ll look like.

The way I do it is to try and picture myself achieving the goal, and thinking about how I’ll feel in that moment.

But it’s hard to do, and ineffective. So what I think I’m going to do, is visualize how I’ll achieve my goals that day. Or try and picture myself doing a montage like sequence containing all my daily chores.

Because ultimately, life is like a movie. What you visualize will happen will come true, essentially. All those sayings about being positive are true – because like attracts like. If you hang out with more positive, goal-oriented people, you become more positive and goal-oriented.

And today’s is short because I keep drifting off… because of the cannabis, you see. (1)

Holy shit! End notes! I haven’t done end notes in like, forever! (2)

Is it because I was practicing piano just before this, and now it’s like a song? (3)

Sing free form Jazz with me! Bloop-bu-du-baaaa, beedley-bwaaahhh.(4)

(1) It’s the Nargles, you see.

(2) For good reason.

(3) We have a good back and forth, you and I. (5)

(4) American Dad reference.

(5) I too, am an American Dad reference. (6)

(6) To be read, in the voice, of Stan Smith… from American Dad.


On TBS! We can say “shit” once during the show!

February 13, 2015 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

A ramble: feelings follow actions; Utopia Season 2

Man it’s amazing how easy it is to forget how awesome working out is.

For example, today I was hemming and hawing before my workout – I didn’t really want to work out and I was giving myself a bunch of excuses as to why I didn’t need to. “I worked out yesterday! I’m sticking to my caloric ceiling! I’ll work out tomorrow!” – All the usual crap.

Regardless, I gritted my teeth and went downstairs to do my workout. Then, about 12 minutes into my treadmill I realized, “Wow! I feel great!” And even though I didn’t want to work out, as soon as I started working out, I didn’t mind it at all. (I did a 30 min treader and a barbell circuit.)

This sort of realization happens basically every time I go to work out – in fact, any time I go to do something I don’t really want to do but know I have to do anyway. And it all comes back to a saying I used to have, “Feelings follow your actions.” When it comes to goals, take action. It doesn’t matter if you’re feeling shitty or ambivalent about what you have to do. If you just take that initial action to get started, your feelings will catch up with you, and ultimately you won’t mind doing what it is you need to do.

Well, not always. There is a limit to the human body, and at times you’ll feel exhausted, etc… But it’s always the mind that gives up before the body – and you can always do more than you think you can, even under trying conditions.

Anyhoo – enough about goals, let’s talk about the real exciting things that are going on, namely, the season premiere of Utopia!

The first episode of Season 2 premiered last night, and it was a doozy. It was a flashback to the 1970’s, when Carville (the scientist from the first season who actually wrote the graphic novel Utopia) first met up with Milner to develop Janus. Over the course of the episode, we’re told the story of Philip Carville – a brilliant scientist who is seething with cynicism about the state of the world. He just happens to run into Milner (played by the foxy Rose Leslie, grrrrrrowl!) who’s sympathetic to his views – particularly about world depopulation. They agree to work together –  and Carville starts working towards creating Janus.

However, his family life is falling apart (namely ’cause Carville is a bit of a nutso.) Carville has a son with his foreign bride named Piedre – but Piedre seems damaged, and he hardly reacts to stimuli at all. Later, we learn that Carville has been testing chemicals on Piedre, and has turned him into something of a monster.

Additionally, Carville has a daughter named Jessica – but his foreign bride dies in childbirth. This is right around the time Carville starts going crazy.

Milner and her associates start putting the screws to Carville in order to get Janus. The way they wield the story is pretty neat – intertwining real life assassinations with the flashback story.

Eventually, before Carville is severely tortured to give up Janus – he’s busted out by Kristos, and he, Carville and Jessica manage to escape. Sadly, as they’re escaping, Carville spies Piedre walking after them – but to no avail, as he’s abandoned to Milner.

That’s right about where the episode ended last night – oh right, except I should mention that Carville is in an institution, and he’s drawing Utopia.

I’m stoked, because as part of the Season 2 fanfare, Channel 4 is airing another episode of Utopia again tonight! It’s episode 2, Season 2 – the very next day!! Wowzers!!

Anyhoo, that’s what I’ll be doing tonight – after I’m done teaching my class. (Man, it’s like these arts students have no interest in theoretical mathematics whatsoever!)


July 15, 2014 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Don’t surf the internet until all your goals are done, a ramble about self-discipline.

Well there’s been quite the snowstorm here in Ottawa. Something like 20cm of snow has fallen overnight. That means I’ll have a bunch of shoveling to do if I want to get outta the driveway for my 8:30 gym appointment.

Now… uh, I don’t really have any good ideas of what to write about this morning. I would check the internet for ideas, but one of my goals is to not surf the net until all my goals are done. Hey! That’s something.

Let me tell you a habit I’m developing which has really skyrocketed my productivity. It is simply this: no internet, no tv and no games until I’ve completed all my goals. There’s a couple exceptions, I keep my e-mails open from 9 to 5 so I can answer work stuff in a timely manner. And it’s ok to check the weather before I go out. And I’m allowed to open wordpress in order to write this blog post.

But that’s it! No checking Google news, no reddit (reddit has been banned from my computer anyway), no online surfing, no nothing. And let me tell you, it has been an unbelievable boon to my productivity.

I sort of think I may have written about this already, but then I got busy with my special exam and got out of the habit. So now I’m getting back into the habit and already it’s paying huge dividends.

For example, yesterday I had a relatively easy day of goals, and I was done all my work by about 3:30pm. Now, once I was done I checked some of my favorite websites – but after I had read all of those, which took maybe 10 minutes tops – then I was bored again. I could’ve continued surfing the web, but instead, I went back to work. 

Really, once you stop surfing the web during the day, you realize how pointless it really is. Honestly, all those snarky websites and pictures of cats will still be there once you’re done your goals for the day. Better still, if you wait until you’ve finished your “To Do” list for the day to surf the web (or watch tv, or play video games), you’ll be able to enjoy them all the more, because now you’re doing it without any chores hanging over your head. 

It’s the same great feeling you get if you’re following a diet and you’ve been faced with a difficult day. Say you’re on a diet and you can’t have treats – and then someone brings in donuts for the morning meeting, and despite REALLY wanting one, you go without – but then it’s Sally’s birthday, and so there’s a break in the afternoon for some cake, and despite REALLY wanting a slice of cake, you go without – then finally, at home, there’s a cupboard full of cookies calling to you, and despite REALLY, REALLY!!! wanting a couple cookies, you go without. As you’re falling asleep, an overwhelming sense of accomplishment will wash over you – because despite the many, many temptations during the day, you’ve managed to stick to your diet. One might call this feeling the “goodness of self-discipline”, that is, foregoing what you want in the short term in order to achieve your long term goals.

After all, that’s all that self-discipline is. Whether we want to climb Mount Everest or win the Penske account or lose 20lbs. In order to achieve all these goals, we have to give up luxuries in the short term to achieve what we want in the long term. If you really want to climb Mount Everest, then you can’t be loafing it up the side of the mountain, playing Angry Birds on your phone. No, you’ve got to be focused, and you’ve got to practice your climbing every day until you’re ready to tackle the big peak. If you want to close the Penske account, you can’t be wasting your time surfing reddit and arguing with nerds on the internet. No, you’ve got to figure out what the hell Penske needs and then make sure your company can come through with the deliverables. And if you want to lose 20lbs, you can’t be eating junk food and drinking soda while relaxing on the couch. No! You’ve got to stick to a diet, every day, and get outside and exercise!

We can’t achieve any goal without self-discipline. Cultivating self-discipline is hard at first, but the more you practice, the easier it gets, and the more self-discipline you gain in the long run.

November 27, 2013 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , | Leave a comment

A ramble about believing you can achieve your goals.

It’s sort of unbelievable how comfortable my bed is in the morning. I hit snooze a record 5 times this morning, because I didn’t want to stop being so cozy. There’s got to be an inverse relationship between temperature and bed coziness; that is, as temperature goes down, bed coziness goes up.

Actually, that’s almost certainly true. In the summer, when it’s stonking hot out, I hardly ever sleep in, because I’m likely covered in sweat and all gross. But when it’s cold out, I can spend all day in bed. It’s so warm and toasty. I’m a snug bug in a rug. Glorious.

Of course, once I get outta bed, put on some warm morning clothes and drink a cup of coffee, I’m raring to go. I suppose this says something for my morning routine, or maybe for my sleep patterns. It used to be that I was super sluggish in the morning – I’d wake up, grab some coffee and slump down in my chair in front of the internet, trying in vain to wake up.

Now, though, as the coffee is being made, I’ll say my goal statements out loud. Then with my first cup of coffee I’ll do 30 minutes of math. With my second cup of coffee, I’ll write out my goals in my goal book, write an entry in my journal, then read a chapter of “Think and Grow Rich” and “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” That usually takes a good 60 to 90 minutes, by which time the sun is rising and I’m ready for the day.

I suppose I could mention how beneficial it is to say your goal statements out loud. This comes directly from “Think and Grow Rich.”, which is a book who knows what it’s talking about.

We all have a subconscious mind, and whatever we repeat to our subconscious mind we accept as true. This is especially true in children. Is there any statement from your childhood which you internalized and accepted as true, even though there was no evidence for which to make this assertion? Things like, “Oh, you’ll never be good at math.” – “You’re terrible at singing!” – “You’re too ugly!” – Usually said by parents, teachers or even other students, who didn’t know any better and said so because they were having a bad day. Even casual statements like this, said in childhood, can have huge ramifications later on in life.

So it is with goal statements. If you get in the habit of saying to yourself every morning, “I believe in myself and my abilities and I’m not ever going to give up until I reach my goal.” Then pretty soon you’ll internalize this message and begin to act in this way! If you have a specific goal of, say, losing 20lbs, then you can start by saying to yourself every morning, “I will lose 20lbs by [this date] through a combination of diet and exercise. Until I reach my target weight, I will exercise 3 times a week for 45 minutes and every day I will follow a low-fat diet and stick to my caloric ceiling. I will never give up until I reach my goal and I know that as long as I follow my plans for diet and exercise every day to the best of my abilities, I will definitely achieve my goal!” 

Wow, say that to yourself every morning and night, and soon, as if by magic, you’ll start acting more in line with what you’re telling yourself.

Of course, this doesn’t work if you say it to yourself sarcastically, or without conviction. The first step to achieving any goal is BELIEVING you can achieve it!

Believing you can achieve your goal is simply the opposite of worrying that you can’t. When we worry, that’s believing that a negative outcome will occur despite having no evidence one way or the other. I’m not talking about, “Oh, I’m worried I’m going to fail this math test.”, after having not attended any classes and done no homework. Yeah, you’re likely going to fail in this case. But more like, “Oh, I’m worried no one will like my presentation.”, despite having worked on your presentation every day for the past month. You don’t know whether people will like it or not, you’re just making that negative assumption out of fear. You have no evidence one way or the other whether people will like it. A better default assumption is to assume that people will love your presentation!

Similarly, when it comes to achieving your goals, you need to start by believing you can! There’s no reason why you can’t. If you’ve got a solid plan to achieve your goal and the willingness to work everyday, then surely you can achieve anything! But first you must believe you can.

It is only after we believe we can do anything that we, in fact, can do it.

November 26, 2013 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Say you had a billion dollars… then what?

Oh man I love getting up early! I had my alarm set for 4:30 so I could hit snooze 4 times. But then I was up and out like a shot at 5:06. Made some coffee, said my goal statements out loud and got to work on my goals.

One thing I did differently today was not open up my internet browser first thing to check my e-mail. I think that I, along with absolutely everyone else, lose the most time on the internet doing trivial things that don’t help with their goals. So today, I’m going to forego the internet until I’ve done all my goals – except for a couple internet dependent things, like writing this blog post, and checking the weather before I head out.

Anyhoo, I was thinking the other day about all the fabulous wealth I’m going to attain. But then I started thinking, yeah, I may have over one hundred million dollars in the bank, but then what? What am I going to do after I’ve bought all the cool stuff I want to buy.

So here’s a goal exercise that I propose: say you had one BILLION dollars. That’s right, billion with a B – so effectively, you’ve got unlimited wealth. You’ve got all the money you’ll ever need. Ok, so you’ve got a billion dollars – then I have two questions for you:

  1. What are you going to buy?
  2. What are you going to do afterwards?

That first part is the most fun. If I had a billion dollars, what would I buy? Well, I’d buy a nice, big-ass house for starters. I’d buy this huge house and a big plot of land to go with it, so that every morning I’d wake up in my big house, in a nice big bed, with lots of covers – and a big window so I could see the sun rise every morning.

I’d have my own workout room, so that after I got up, I’d go work out for 60-90 minutes. Since it would be my own workout room, I’d have the music I want playing, and I’d have the tv set to a loop of inspirational videos – or heroic sports clips.

After my workout, I’d go shower off in my huge master bathroom. I’d have a big, two-person walk in shower, with heated floors, and a big counter with a couple sinks. Rows and rows of huge fluffy towels – do they make towel warmers? Heck, I’m rich – I’d have a dryer in the bathroom specifically for towels, so that after my shower I’d have a warm fluffy towel ready to go.

After my shower I’d get dressed for the day. I don’t really care about fashion, but since I’m rich, I’ll have a large selection of suits to put on. Or, if it’s winter, I’d just put on warm and woolly sweatpants.

Then I’d head down to the kitchen for some breakfast. Naturally, since I’m rich, I’d have a hot wife (or sex maid, same thing) making breakfast for me. My kitchen would be nice and big, with a professional style grill and fume hood for cooking – possibly a deep fryer – a big pantry stocked with lots of food. All the latest kitchen gear that my wife (or sex maid) would want.

Ok, so that’s a small sample of all the cool stuff I’d buy. But then what would I do all day? I’ve got a billion dollars, so I don’t need to rush into some goddamn office and deal with people all day. I’ve got the whole day to myself to do whatever I want.

I think when most people fantasize about winning the lottery, they think about all the stuff they want. Yeah, having neat stuff is neat – but what are you going to all day? I’ll tell ya, watching youtube videos and playing video games all day will get boring fast. Despite having fabulous wealth, you must also have a purpose. A mission.

Without a mission, all that wealth will be wasted. You’ll feel useless and bored without a reason to get up in the morning. You can play around on your wealthy toys for awhile, but that will get boring. You can travel the world for a long time. But eventually, that will get boring too.

Because what are you going to do? 

You’ve now got all the time in the world, how are you going to spend it? All that this wealth has earned you, really, is free time. You’re free to live without the hassles of an office job and worrying about car payments and all that. You’ve got no stress and tons of free time.

Now what?

Let me tell you – question 2 up above is WAY more important than question 1. If you really want to set goals for yourself and achieve what you want in life, it’s imperative that you answer question 2.

Because once you’ve answered question 2, and you’ve figured out what you’re going to do with all your free time, then I’ve got great news. You don’t need a billion dollars to do what you really want to do. If you know in your heart of hearts what you would do if you had all the money in the world, then you can make a plan to start doing what you really want to do today!

That’s the best part! You CAN do what you really want to do, even if you don’t have all that wealth. Because ultimately, it’s what we do everyday that matters, not what we own.

Figure out what you want to do, then figure out a way to do what you want to do today! It’s closer than you think!

November 25, 2013 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Start Your New Years Resolutions Today!

So I signed up for a free 2-hour personal training session at Goodlife, and it’s happening this morning at 9:30. I’m sort of excited and sort of nervous – nervous, because we’re going to do a body-fat measurement, and I know I’m going to get slammed. But excited, because I’ll have a pro looking over my lifts and giving me various tips. I’d be open to a once-a-week personal training session to keep me motivated and on track, but we’ll see how much it costs.

Anyhoo, we’re nearing the end of November, which means December is right around the corner, which means that soon, come January, the gym will be packed with the “New Years Resolutioners” – who will show up for two weeks in January and then we’ll never seen 95% of them again. So this leads me to the following idea, which i’m going to yell in a big bold font:


Seriously, don’t bother waiting until January 1st to start that diet or join the gym or quit your job. Start now. If you absolutely must wait for an arbitrary 1st of the month date, start on December 1st.

By starting now, you’ll get an extra jump on all those people who make New Years Resolutions on the 1st of January and never follow through. If you really want to change something about yourself, the best time to start was 10 years ago – the next best time to start is now.

Don’t be afraid to start a diet with the impending holidays. That’s an excuse – if you’re on a diet, there will always be temptations. It’ll be someone’s birthday at work, or someone will bring donuts to the meeting, or it’ll be dinner out with friends. There will never be a time when there wont be temptations. Don’t use the holidays as an excuse – make a plan and stick to it. You may have to pass up on Aunt Bertha’s famous Brooklyn Blackout Cake, but before you know it, it’ll be swimsuit season – and you know who looks terrible in a bikini, fat Aunt Bertha.

When it comes to New Years Resolutions, I recommend making changes in the following areas, in the following order: Health, Love, Knowledge and Fortune. (I used to have Fame in there, but then I decided that, as an introvert, I don’t really care to do all the shameless self-promotion that comes with fame. I decided to let my work speak for itself and let the chips fall where they may.)

Health is obviously the most important. We can’t enjoy the spoils of life if we’re in poor health. Any good New Years Resolution begins with diet and exercise. 

The Love category consists of family and friends. We all want to enjoy life with our family, friends and we want to share it all with someone we love. If you’re single, then make a resolution to join a dating site, or join a singles club. Ignore naysayers who say the only way to meet people is through friends. What fucking hogwash! The internet is the greatest communication tool the world has ever seen – leverage this to meet whom you want to meet. And if you’re already in a relationship, then use the Dale Carnegie tips to improve your relationship.

Knowledge – or work – honestly, I think most people work because they have to, not because they enjoy the work. I’d recommend reading Tim Ferris and/or Think And Grow Rich and quit your shitty job. I remember with glee how I quit the job I hated so I could go back to school and do what I love. However, if you’re working at a job you enjoy, there’s probably stuff you can be doing that would make that job even better, or make advancement at that job faster. Figure out what it is and do it.

Finally, Fortune. We’d all love to be rich, but we all spend loads of time everyday surfing the internet or watching tv, wondering why we’re not rich. Use your free time to do something productive. Create something of value and sell it! Quit your shitty job and start a company doing what you love. Life is too damn short to spend it watching other people live exciting lives. The internet is also the greatest money making machine the world has ever known. Find your niche and leverage it for all you can.

Think about those New Years Resolutions and get a head start on them! You’ll be glad you did!

November 20, 2013 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

6 Dale Carnegie tips on how to get people to like you.

Man, yesterday was rough. Rough I tells ya! I was sleepy all damn day, barely got anything accomplished. On top of that, I seem to have acquired “lifter’s elbow” – which basically means my left elbow has undergone some sort of inflammation, which means I’ll be forgoing lifting today. Bleah.

On the other hand, I did get a good sleep last night, so I got that going for me.

But what to write about today? Hmm..

Well, I’m currently reading, “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie, the granddaddy of goal setting and achieving. I haven’t finished the book yet, but each chapter is gold – “Gold, Jerry!” – so why don’t I write down some of the things I’ve already learned.

Here’s 6 ways to make people like you:

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile.
  3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in terms of the other’s person’s interests.
  6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

A few notes then.

1) Become interested in other people. There’s a saying that goes something like, “Interested is interesting.” All of us are self-centered, we’re only interested in the things that we’re interested in. If you want people to like you, or if you want to be an interesting conversationalist, then you can start by talking about what the other person is interested in. Most people try and talk about what interests them – but that ain’t gonna win you any friends. Instead, if you talk about what others are interested in, they’ll be happy to talk with you, but more importantly, they’ll remember how much they enjoyed talking with you.

2) Smile. Well, this should almost be self-evident, but it isn’t. Everyone prefers to be around smiling, happy people. Smiles are infectious! Sure, it may not be “cool” to go around smiling all the time, because that’s not how James Dean did it – but let’s face it, none of us are brooding movie stars. If you want people to like you, then it’s easier to like a happy, positive person. And nothing conveys happiness and enthusiasm more than a great big smile.

3) Call people by their names. This is probably more important for business folk, but still applicable to everyone. If you want to piss someone off, then forget their name after you’ve met them 2 or 3 times. But remembering someone’s name has a great effect, especially if they’ve forgotten yours. This especially works well with waiters and other types of service people. If a waiter brings you a meal, and you say, “Thanks Todd!” or whatever his name is, he’ll be more likely to give you better service.

4) Be a good listener. This one is tough, but totally worth it. Often people just listen to others and then respond with their own story. If you can listen, and not just respond with, “When *I* did such and such…” or “That’s like when *I* did blah de blah…”, then people will again think you’re an amazing conversationalist. People are more likely to respect you if you’ve shown that you can listen to them. The easiest way to remember this is by thinking ahead to your response. If your response contains the word “I” in it, then you’re operating from your frame of reference. Listen to what the person is saying and encourage them to expand on their point. Trust me, you’ll get to talk about yourself soon enough…

5) Talk about what the other person is interested in. This is just a way of approaching point (1) when you’re talking. Don’t talk about whatever it is you like, talk about what the other person likes.

6) Make the other person feel important. We all want to feel important. If you’re a big boss, then this tip is directed at you. Don’t take your employees for granted, they may just up and quit if they don’t feel they’re being respected. Take the time to show you appreciate whatever job it is they do. Also helpful for dealing with waiters, other wait staff and spouses.

So there you have it, 6 helpful tips on how to get people to like you. Notice how each and every tip is focusing on the other person. That’s because we’re all essentially self-interested. So if you can share in someone else’s self-interest, they’re more likely to look upon you with favour.

November 19, 2013 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , , | 1 Comment